If you have been feeling frustrated or stressed lately, you should confide your woes with people you trust. Talking is never a sign of weakness. There is value in opening up and sharing your concerns with a trusted friend, your family, or even seeking professional help. In fact, in a recent online webinar Study Tips That *Just Make Sense*, which featured panelists Minister of State Alvin Tan, psychologist Dr Geraldine and NUS LAW undergraduate and YouTuber Mr Leon Ngiam, Mr Ngiam shared how reaching out to a counsellor during his JC years helped him manage his stress and regulate his emotions.
“I’ll share this very candidly because I don’t think that’s a shame to say that you have to see a counsellor,” he adds.
It would be wise to follow a study plan and while you are at it, do break down your objectives into manageable chunks. Allocate some down time throughout the day to take a breather or two. Take these periods of down time to engage do your laundry, exercise, clean your room, or even head to the supermarket. You would be surprised to know how taking your mind of things can help you feel better.
The fear of failure or not measuring up to standard may be an indicator of having a perfectionistic mindset. But the truth is, no one is perfect, and we all have our own flaws. Your failures or lack of perfection do not define who you are.
In the same webinar, Minister of State Alvin Tan recounted his experience retaining a year in his Junior College. “When you repeat a year and you see all your friends move up, you will remember that moment,” he admits. And yet, instead of letting his ‘failure’ define who he was, the mental health advocate proudly shares his experience with local youths to better connect with and empower others.
He adds, “When you fail or have a setback, you can turn that into something where eventually you can let people know, ‘Hey, I’ve been there, I’ve done that. I know exactly how it feels, it’s not so bad.’”
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